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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Among mainstream schools I'd try Sheridan, St Andrews, Sandy Spring Friends, Green Acres or Lowell.

They are all in the more progressive, whole child vein and say they welcome children with diverse learning styles. I have friends who have sent kids to all, including a couple with SNs. The SN kids didn't last much past 2nd and the parents were doing a lot of supports and therapies outside school at their own expense.

You won't know until you apply, visit and meet with the directors whether they will be good for your child.

That said if I were in your shoes, I'd move into the Bethesda Elementary school district and try public school.

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Yeah, but depending on the SN some of the schools mentioned will be the absolute wrong environment especially if the kid needs a lot of structure.

[b]OP won't even disclose what the "mild SN" is that required an IEP in public preschool[/b].[/quote]

I think this is the crux of the perceived negative feedback she got. When people ask advice on this board, it helps to offer some detail. Nobody can advise you on what program or school is best for your child if you refuse to divulge any information other than "it's just really really mild and not a super biggie but he has an IEP for it." That's not enough information for anyone to offer advice or recommendations. And when a parent wants the benefit of the advice of fellow special needs parents, while simultaneously denying THEIR child has actual special needs, it really rubs people the wrong way. You can't say you want our advice and understanding and commiseration while also refusing to align yourself with us and our kids because you and yours aren't really SN families. [/quote]

I think I gave enough detail and am not comfortable with disclosing more due to privacy. The main issues are motor skills and social skills, which can end up in externalizing behavior, as I stated in the OP.  There are many different factors and not all of them are entirely clear yet --  although like every parent on here I have been diligent in consulting with experts.  The one thing that IS clear to me (and the reason I posted in the first place) is that the size of the class and quality of teaching makes a huge difference, and at this point we have a reasonable belief that he would be able to succeed in the right kind of mainstream kindergarten.  It seems like unless I give all the CPT codes we bill to insurance nobody is going to be happy.  [/quote]

You're doubling down again on what I just said was the likely problem. You want SN parents advice but are insistent he belongs in and will do just fine in a mainstream class. Might he? Maybe. But we don't know because you're so cagey with details. Absolutely nobody who reads this could ID or out you if you revealed his diagnosis or why he has an IEP but you still won't, so nobody can advise you. When you accept you're a parent of a SN child, you might find this forum useful. [/quote]

Ok just stop now.  I'm not posting all of my child's medical records on the internet.  I asked for advice about private kindergartens that would be more accommodating to differences, and got some good answers.  Sorry I don't meet some kind of tough love disclosure standard you think should be applied.  [/quote]

OP I asked what his former teachers have recommended and you have chosen not to respond. Yet you want to dicker with others over what you will and won't post. If you actually want help, please provide information as I am sure you know-not all SN are accommodated equally in all environments.[/quote]

Calm down.  You posted that like two minutes ago.  He has new teachers at the moment so they aren't making any recommendations yet.  I'm in the gathering information stage.  I've had one set of teachers suggest he needs extensive supports, and another set who thought he would do fine mainstreamed.  (Guess which set of teachers provided the environment he did well in?)[/quote]

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