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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  For those who are criticizing me for "keeping score" and saying that some people don't feel comfortable with it or that they don't spend a lot of time on FB, I hear what you are saying.  BUT, I am not keeping score.  Lots of people did not comment, and I am ok with that.  I am talking about the "friends" who are constantly posting...like 5-6 times a day.  That is why I noticed it--because they are in my face all the time, but for some reason ignoring my sad news.  I am sure my post reached their timeline because it had over 90 comments, and those posts generally get a lot of visibility.  Also, one of the friends has made numerous posts about other peoples deaths, so I know she is very comfortable with the notion of FB postings about death.  How hard can it be to simply say, "my condolences."  Actually I would expect more from the "friend" who writes paragraphs about other dead people.  So disappointed in this person. [/quote]

If these people were truly friends (not just "FB friends") before this, then you need to give them the benefit of the doubt. [b] I have over 300 FB friends and I like to keep my newsfeed set to "most recent," but FB often switches it on me to "top stories."  What that means is that I often see just the posts from people I interact with a lot on FB (I've liked or commented on their other posts a lot, or they've done the same to mine).  So I would most likely miss a post from my mother in law, whom I love, because she is hardly ever on FB.  I often go days between posts and then will have a rash of 3-4 posts in one day, often from my phone.[/b]  Maybe I upload a picture of my kids doing something cute/hilarious, or maybe I just had something silly to say.  That doesn't mean I have also spent the last hour scrolling through the hundreds of posts in my newsfeed in the meantime.

I am very sorry for your loss, but please don't look for offense where there likely was none given.  If these people are truly friends, then an appropriate way to tell them about such a sad event would be an email. [/quote]

First, the FB app sucks.

Second, go on a computer, go to Facebook.com, and create groups.  It helps reduce your news feed considerably.

The OP could have done a blind copy e-mail in addition to the Facebook post.  As someone posted earlier, not everyone is on social media. I think you find out who your real friends are when something like the OP's issue happens.  [/quote]

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