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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So-- I've never intentionally done what OP has (first because I'm not nearly that good a cook, second because I don't enjoy cooking so it would annoy me more than my MIL), however, I'm pretty sure my MIL thinks that's what I'm doing when I cook when they visit.  When DC was born she came to "help", but told DH the only thing she could do is hold the baby, "because DIL is such a good cook". I almost wish I had the skill and joy of OP -- that way I would at least get personal satisfaction for making something amazing instead of just having a MIL who assumes I'm trying to show her up. 
[b]I also sometimes wish I could sign only my name to cards, so that she would realize that without me, her DS would not be sending her Mother's Day flowers, thoughtful birthday gifts, etc.[/b] [/quote]

Why on earth do you do that? Is your DH disabled? 
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So she can be a martyr. And by the way every mil knows that when her DIL signs the cards in her writing, everything is coming from the DIL not the son.[/quote]

I know in DCUM-land, any DIL who does things for her ILs is a doormat, but in reality, DH and I have a great partnership, and separates tasks by skillset, not "assigning" based on recipient.  I'm better at remembering things (like that MIL is having minor surgery) and better at thinking of gifts (like that MIL would enjoy adult coloring books); DH is better at a million other things, keeping our household organized and running efficiently. I'm not a martyr-- it takes me 5 min to send flowers online, vs the like 30 min it would take DH to pick something out. We maximize go combined efficiency.  It's only when MIL says certain things that I wish she knew how much I do-- but realistically, I do it for DH, not her. [/quote]

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