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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A healthy male sex drive doesn't fade much.  Its not a want.  If you have never felt a strong drive, there is no analogy.  But turn on the Discovery channel, watch a couple of male rams but heads for the right to mate.  Or wolves fight to the death, or lions kill cubs to get the female in heat.

Yes, yes of course humans have rational brains that can control a man fro, raping, killing.  But the drive is still there, eating away until it's released.  Our species depends on the it[/quote]

Not true.

By 40 men's testosterone has decreased by 10%. Also they don't get as big and hard, their recovery time is longer.

http://www.healthline.com/health/mens-health/sex-drive#Overview1

Men are socialized to not control their desires it's not biology.[/quote]

With respect, there are experiences in life some genders will never understand.  I will never know what its like to give birth, to nurse, to feel totally tapped and touched out and never want sex when there are toddlers.  I can relate but I won't get it.

If you aren't a man, with normal testosterone, you won't ever understand what a male sex drive feels like.  How obsessive it can become to want and seek sex.  Which is why men sleep with random prostitutes.  And consume endless porn.  And occupy Ashley Madison at 10:1 ratios over women.  Pour money away at strip clubs.  Have sex in rest areas when closeted.

Yes, it's controllable which is why 99% of men have no problem going through life without sexually assaulting women.  Yes, my sex drive at 40 isn't what it was at 18 - I generally only masturbate 1x per day, when I was 18 it was 2-3x a day.  Erections aren't as good as they used to be.  I think about sex often but not constantly.  [/quote]

I agree that people don't understand gender, masculinity and sexual desire... All 3 are different things. I think you probably are mixing the 3.

Men are socialized to believe they are masculine by having sex, that is not testosterone driven.

Just like women are socialized to give birth and parent. That is not estrogen driven.

What you are confusing with drive is your socialization to believe if you have more sex you are masculine ... If you have less sex you are feminine... But men think victim... Which psychologically often are thought of as the same thing, by men.

It's like a woman who wants 4 kids but her H stops at 2. She may feel an "urge" to have more. That is not biological, that is socialized. She may be disappointed but that is her own reaction and she can change that reaction.

Men are socialized to think they have an urge for sex, but in reality they were socialized to believe if they are not getting sex from a woman, their wife, they are not manly. The urge is to feel manly not to have sex. You can change your way of thinking about masculinity if you wanted but most men don't know that, they claim it is biologically driven.

What is funny is it is easier to lower drive than it is to increase drive. Men could lower their drive to meet their wife's drive with a simple pill. But they are socialized to believe their wife should take a pill to change her drive to match his.[/quote]

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