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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't look at it that way (asking if Basis is a good fit). I keep cultivating my child and spending less time worrying about the school. DS is in 8th now. He's not a top student, but he's not at the bottom, either. He used to be grumpy about school, but he is now joyful. It's because I started trusting him. I started respecting his ability to choose for himself. I even told him that if he wants to choose to fail, it's up to him, because I am choosing to respect his decisions. He actually goes to school and comes back HAPPY now, because he realizes I accept him just the way he is.  Basis hasn't changed, but I have, and he has. Before, I think a lot of my incessant anxiety about the right school has to do with the amount of control I need over my child's future. No more.

So, my thought is, you can try to control the outcome of your child's life by picking the right/wrong school (nothing wrong with that... we picked Basis over Latin...he got in to both). But the parenting piece is still mostly about your core relational bond with your child. A well attuned child will thrive. We plan to stay through 12th grade. Thought briefly about Walls, but I think Basis is just fine. Kid has become more personally responsibly, grades are on the rise.  Is Basis the right school? It's important to know why you are asking this question. The school has rigor, but it is is not crazy difficult. I feel like I read a lot of posts, and [b]the key issue is not academic rigor but parental anxiety[/b]. So, do you solve the school issue or solve your own anxiety? For me, I have attained personal peace...and I see a seriously beneficial trickle down effect. [/quote]

Sums up pretty much every thread, from the ones on potty training and school lunch/snack to college placements.[/quote]

+1  People need to examine their fear of death and dial backwards to consider their decision processes. Maybe take The-Meaning-Of-Life 101. [/quote]

“Because children grow up, we think a child's purpose is to grow up. But a child's purpose is to be a child. Nature doesn't disdain what lives only for a day. It pours the whole of itself into the each moment. We don't value the lily less for not being made of flint and built to last. Life's bounty is in its flow, later is too late. Where is the song when it's been sung? The dance when it's been danced? It's only we humans who want to own the future, too. We persuade ourselves that the universe is modestly employed in unfolding our destination. We note the haphazard chaos of history by the day, by the hour, but there is something wrong with the picture. Where is the unity, the meaning, of nature's highest creation? Surely those millions of little streams of accident and wilfulness have their correction in the vast underground river which, without a doubt, is carrying us to the place where we're expected! But there is no such place, that's why it's called utopia. The death of a child has no more meaning than the death of armies, of nations. Was the child happy while he lived? That is a proper question, the only question. If we can't arrange our own happiness, it's a conceit beyond vulgarity to arrange the happiness of those who come after us.”

-Tom Stoppard[/quote]

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