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[quote=Anonymous][quote]At some point, you are going to have to have the painful conversation with him. Otherwise, you will end up either divorced, miserable, or in bed cheating with a man like me (we would have an amazing time  ) [/quote]

I agree (except I'm a woman and not interested in having sex with you :lol: )  Long story short, DH and I are in our 50s.  He isn't able to get an erection even with medication.  When he was on depression medication that interfered with our sex life, I willingly accepted it.  Small price to pay for a healthy DH.  But, he's not on those meds any more.  He began rebuffing me.  After a while, the loss of physical affection took it's toll on me and our marriage.  I couldn't imagine living the next decades without physical affection.  We argued a lot about it, he finally admitted he couldn't get an erection even though he wasn't on anti-depressants and Viagra/Cialis hadn't helped.  We ended up in counseling because, as I said above, I could have a happy marriage without intercourse, but I couldn't without affection.

It was extremely difficult for DH to talk about his performance issues (you can imagine).  But, with his marriage on the line, he did.  We both have a better understanding of the issues and the support each of us needs to navigate them.  Unless you have the painful conversation with your husband, you'll never know.  Without that knowledge, you won't really be able to make good choices for yourself.  You need to know WHY and your husband needs to know how this issues threatens your relationship. Hugs.[/quote]

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