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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Moving schools is probably one of the LEAST difficult things your cousin is dealing with right now. Sure, it will be a last minute scramble, but getting out of a physically abusive home [b](I don't care if you're opposed to spanking or think it's great discipline - beating a child with a special wooden spoon is abusive)[/b], negotiating her sexual identity, and facing adulthood a lot sooner than she was planning are much bigger deals.

I also agree with the poster who suggested not to let this experience sway your desire to have kids. You start with a tiny baby and work your way up to teenage sexual identity.

Also, I wanted to say that this is something that my family went through as well, though not with a relative. My mom has ALWAYS been the parent who me and my siblings' friends came to in times of crisis. Her rule was that she would never call their parents and tell on them, but if they wanted to stay in our house more than a couple hours, they had to call their parents and let them know where they were. One of my sister's friend's father responded to Friend's sexuality in the same way as your aunt, and Friend ended up living with my mom for several years. Friend is now fairly stable and well adjusted and credits having a safe place to run to when she was in crisis as why she didn't kill herself.[/quote]

OP here again. Oh no! I'm completely ant-spanking. Please don't think I support my aunt and uncle's "discipline" method... I think it's disgusting and agree that it's abuse, but unfortunately CPS in cousin's home state/county at the time did not, so there was nothing my mom could do about that other than not allow any "spankings"/beatings of anyone in HER house (she tried; I heard her call and report it but nothing came of that). I wasn't trying to excuse it; sorry if my post came across that way.

Thank you so much for sharing your/your friend's story. That gives me hope that things might turn out alright for my cousin despite this mess as long as the rest of the family finds a way to help & protect her. [/quote]

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