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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Put more simply, people who gain a bunch of weight just don't care. They don't care about a lot of stuff and it would be hard to be a person who cares married to one who doesn't.

Please don't start with thyroid excuses, we all know that's not what anybody is talking about.[/quote]

What an asshole you are.  How about this?  Put more simply, people who gains bunch of weight are busy caring about things other than vanity, like their children, their elderly parents, their moody partner, their housework, their friends, their community, their yard, their extended family, their reading list, their writing, their activism, their hobbies, their travels, their volunteer work, etc.

Some of us prioritize a LOT of things above our appearance.[/quote]

[b]It's not about your appearance. It's about looking good[/b] and taking care of yourself because you love your spouse and you prioritize the spark, attraction, and sex life with your LIFE PARTNER. Clearly your yard is more important, though. [/quote]

Um.  Listen to yourself.  It's not about appearance, it's about looking good.  Um, right.

My spark with my partner was never about appearance.  I also don't expect a spark to last forever.  Do you think 75 and 85 year old happy partners have a "spark"?  No, they have shared values, goals, memories, friendship, trust, affection, laughter.

I care about my partner's goals, wishes, and happiness.  I would like to work out with him because I think it might be fun, but he's not interested in that as a shared activity.  If he was unhappy with my appearance, I be open to adjusting priorities.  I've never worn makeup and have always been bigger than most women and he fell in love with me that way.  [/quote]

Then this thread isn't talking about you!!! We are talking about the people like a Pp before you whose husband has gained 100 lbs and she's not attracted to him any longer and also feels she can't say anything. If you were always big and your husband likes that, this is not a discussion that relates to you. [/quote]

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