Reply to The Weight Thing

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "The Weight Thing"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There has been plenty of discussion on whether spouse has put on weight and if that led to not being attracted to them, affairs, divorce, etc. Of course physical attraction and sex are important in marriage, but just want to put this out there... Is weight gain really a good reason to break up a marriage? Isn't a person about so much more than their weight and physical appearance? Personality, how he/she is as a parent, community member, activity partner, supporter in time of need, etc etc. Seems a shame that all of these things are swept away with such a focus on physical appearance. And this is not to say that people shouldn't care about their appearance, be slovenly, etc. But weight gain being the death knell of committed relationship, really? Seems like our society is not going down the best track...[/quote]

No. It isn't a really good reason to break up a marriage. But I sympathize. Because it is difficult to tell your spouse you find them downright unattractive with that extra 50 pounds on. And he/she may not be able to do anything about it, anyway.

[/quote]

Agreed.  My DH has put on more than 100 pounds, and I've learned it is easiest to say nothing.  I do not find him attractive at all, but I love him.[/quote]

It's not worth saying anything because as this thread proves he would just get defensive and then try to gaslight you into thinking he gained 100 lbs by focusing on 74 different activities and enterprises. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics