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[quote=Anonymous]eh.  My DH travels a lot, and although it drives me nuts at times, I've never gotten to the point of contemplating divorce over it.  (at least a 2-3 days every week this month, none last month, a full week the month before, etc). It's a choice in the sense that he chooses to run his own business and this kind of schedule makes it successful.  He doesn't do it just to provide for his family; lord knows, there are lower risk, higher reward options out there for breadwinning.  Rather, he loves it, loves being his own boss, and believes he is maximizing his potential to be a productive member of society.

I tolerate it okay.  I do like parenting on my own, at least some of the time, but it has been a drag on my career and generally results in me being the default parent for almost everything. that is overwhelming sometimes, particularly since i have a fulltime litigation job, and it is maddening to me that he just assumes I will do all the routine  parenting tasks.  I think if I said it was a dealbreaker, he would choose me over the business (though to be honest, I'm not sure).  I wouldn't take that step without some serious counseling first.  He generally tries to help make up for it by giving me "time off" on weekends to work or just recharge.   This weekend, for example, we'll do one family outing (to a pool, probably), and I'll fix breakfast and cook dinner.  Otherwise, he will take the kids entirely, while I get some work done (and relax).  These weekends (which are not every weekend, but do happen frequently when he travels during the week) give him some good quality time with the kids and me some crucial mental space.

I'm hoping we become better partners, take more date nights, etc, as the kids get bigger (1 and 3 now), but we have set these patterns already with me being largely responsible for the parenting.  [/quote]

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