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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello Dcum, I was hoping to get some perspective from other folks in the area and whether my father is being completely ridiculous or if I should compromise.
I'm a 27 yr old male and in June proposed to my fiance. I plan on getting married spring next year.

My father finalized his divorce with my mom after 23 years of marriage and a long messy divorce this winter. The short synopsis is that at the very least my father had an extended EA with the OW who is 15 years younger and much more attractive than my father. But it is mine and everyone else's opinion that a full blown affair had been under way for years. I believe my mother knew but didn't say anything as she believed my father would never divorce her.

Needless to say I do not like or trust the other woman and she is still with my father. My problem is that I adamantly do not want this woman at my wedding. But I really want my actual parents to be there and I love them both. My father has given the ultimatum that he will not attend my wedding if I do not invite his new SO/other woman even though I have directly asked him to be there without her.

I care very much about my family and want my parents there. Not only do I not want the OW there but I couldn't bring myself to ask my mother to be at my wedding around her. My father has taken this as a personal assault and picking sides.

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting her there and asking him to attend without her? I feel like he should want to be at my wedding no matter what.
For anyone who may have also experienced something like this how did you handle it? I really don't want to have to do an elopement.

Thanks.[/quote]
In your situation I would decide that not hurting my mother would mean more to me than accommodating my father.  I love my mom and would not have her hurting on what should be a happy day.  So, dad would come alone or not at all.  [/quote]

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