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At this point I just have to give up on having a family vacation with anyone and I've got to drop this cousin. If she can't honor an explicit promise not to tell my mother, she isn't someone I can safely have in my life. [/quote]

This sounds right.  Sorry about your vacation (and your mother). [/quote]

Agree.  My mom isn't a problem in my family but some of my cousins and uncles are (outright criminals, child abusers, etc).  Sadly, my mother's parents and one of other her siblings would not respect her wishes when it came to keeping those people out of our lives so my mom had to limit contact with her parents to keep us safe.  Her parents have long since passed but the sibling that wouldn't accept my mom's boundaries still holds it against my mother and tries to guilt us kids into having a relationship with these people.  So now the next generation is having to limit contact as well.  Outside of facebook, contact is very very rare.

[b]Some people think being a family means letting people do whatever the hell they want to you, even committing crimes, and you just have to take it.  A lot of those people are also the ones that aren't/weren't bearing the brunt of the abusive and/or criminal behavior.  [/b]In the case of my mother's sibling, it's the youngest sibling so she was the baby and never received any of the awful treatment my mother was subjected to and was trying to protect us from.  [b]In your case, it's a cousin that never had the behavior turned on them so they think you should just take it in the name of "family."[/b][/quote]

Eff that, OP.  Are you able to do two nights at a "nearby" beach, instead - that the kids would enjoy?  OC or Delaware, perhaps?  Sorry you are going through this.  [/quote]

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