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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]when would it be ok for your spouse to start dating again?  If there are kids, let's assume that whoever the spouse dates would be good to them if it comes to that (not some evil stepmother stereotype).

I'm basically asking what you think is an appropriate time to mourn your death before moving on.[/quote]

I think a year is appropriate and decent, but that depends. If it was a long decline and said spouse was 'out of it' maybe sooner.
Also, I mean - dead is dead. There's nothing else you can do about that and life is for the living. I think I'd mourn my husband for a long time but I'd respect
someone doing things differently too. 
However, I would wait years to introduce anyone to the kids as they don't need the drama. You don't really know what will crop up until you are in the thick of things, trust me.
Have your fun dates and companionship but leave the kids out of it - for at least a year and preferably longer.[/quote]

+1, more or less.  I would actually really want DH to remarry eventually, though perhaps wait a year before dating to try to get his head on straight.  I love him to pieces but he lacks a certain amount of common sense necessary to solo-parent, and like everyone else, he really needs companionship.  He's a bit socially awkward and prone to depression; without a partner, he'll just be so solitary.  I'd want someone to love him as much as I do, or better.  And to help him with hard task of raising 2 little girls.

weirdly, I think if he died, I probably would just wait until the girls were out of the house.  I fly solo pretty well (based on limited experience and extrapolation), but it's hectic and all-consuming, and I can't really imagine trying to fit a romantic life into the life of me-as-single-mom.
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You seem like a really sweet, thoughtful person, and your husband is lucky to have you. [/quote]

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