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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Having gone through it with my father wife hunting and proposing to multiple women online in the weeks after my mom died, I would say ideally wait until the kids have healed and are adjusting well to life without mom.

At a minumum I would say not until the gravestone marker has been placed and the kids have had time to visit and grieve that.  Gravestones go on about one year after the burial so that makes it 1+ years absolute minimum.

[b]The kids needs to grieve the loss of mom through all holidays, Christmas and birthdays especially. If they can have the first Christmas to grieve [/b]and tue second Christmas to realize life goes on, that would be especially helpful.[/quote]

+1  Several weeks after my mom's sudden death, my dad said that we (me, my siblings, and dad) would spend the first Christmas without Mom away on a trip together.  9 months later, it was the first Christmas without her, and our dad decided to spend Christmas on a trip with his girlfriend (his current wife).  That Christmas, I remember sitting in my bedroom and thinking seriously about killing myself.  My brothers got wasted downstairs and passed out in front of the boxes that contained the Christmas tree we never set up.

But dad was super happy in his new love!  All of his friends and many of our family members told me that I need to keep in mind that Dad was "really suffering" and to think about how he was feeling, and that I should want him to be happy.  He adores his new wife and her grandkids, and he never looked back.

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