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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never got this reasoning. Parents divorcing is pretty is traumatic at any age, so wouldn't it be better to do it when your children are young so that they can get the support they need? Most people are sympathetic and offer support for kids, but that kind of goes away when you're an adult. [/quote]

Because a lot of them don't get the support they need, and being younger means needing more support.  The parents may try to be supportive (or not) but they are preoccupied with the divorce, financial problems, and dating, so they sometimes cant give enough support.  Young children are also more harmed by joint custody.  People may be sympathetic, but it isn't anywhere near enough.  Older children and adults are more likely to have friends and partners to help them through it, and if they are old enough, may not have to endure the back and forth of joint custody at all.

They will be adult children of divorce either way.

The financial impact of divorce cannot be understated.  The longer you live in one house instead of two, the more you save.  That time can be used to prepare for the financial impact of divorce.  Waiting until the children are gone means you no longer have to live in a good school district.  People don't think practically about divorce until they experience it.[/quote]

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