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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two coworkers who I thought were friends. One asked for my support during an emotionally wrenching time for her, and I assisted and supported her both professionally and personally.
The other day at work, they exhibited classic mean girl behavior.
The one who I had helped extensively in the past, made a comment about my appearance to the coworker, who laughed. I tried to deflect it, but they acted like it was all a big joke. The main instigator made another dig shortly thereafter.

I was so hurt and shocked by this unprofessional behavior. I avoided both of them the rest of the day though the instigator invited me to join her for a walk.
Later in the day, one asked "why are you so quiet today?" and I lost it. Our cubicles are in close proximity so both could hear the interchange.
I told her  I couldn't stand their catty behavior and then said something like "this isn't high school"
One coworker could see how upset I was and came rushing over all apologetic and sorry.
I told her that normally I could laugh off this childish behavior, but my day hadn't started off well and I was in no mood for their rude behavior.

[b]She was crying, and when I looked over I could see that the "rat" who instigated it all was sobbing.[/b] They both apologized.

But I am disgusted! They are not who they seemed to be and I plan to stay at a distance. One reached out with a note and small gift, the other emailed me, but I haven't responded.

I am considering asking to move cubicles (I can manufacture some reason for my manager)
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I honestly can't get past this part of the story. If two women were openly crying in my office, one sobbing, I would be alarmed and think something very tragic had happened.  I can't even imagine this scenario playing out in an open office area with cubicles.  All three of you should be very embarrassed by your behavior. None of you acted professionally.

Op you need to go to work to just go to work.  You were correct - it's not high school and the "social scene" is a secondary part of the office not the primary one.  If something goes wrong in that part, you need to just suck it up. You can't have an emotional break down because someone made a not nice comment to you. [/quote]

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