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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's been a difficult year for my son socially.  He has come to me on two occasions in the past month feeling sad about having no friends.  In fact I had thought he had two close friends at school, but he confided that they aren't actually that nice to him and frequently ignore him if the other is around.  He came to tears about this.  He has never really made strong connections with friends. I told him he should look for some other people to hang with, but it's a small school and he feels all the kids already have their groupings.  Add to this he's my oldest and has always been on the quiet side (my girls not at all), not interested in sports, and would like to play video games all day if he could. Academically he is average, but he never really puts in effort. Well done homework takes hours or he puts in little effort and is fine with mediocre grades. Teachers tell us he's a smart kids who should turn in his homework on time and he'd do better.  I feel like he's eventually going to get picked on, somewhere down the line, as no one will have his back.  When I suggest he join a sport or a club he shrugs it off.  Ride his bike around to get to know kids around our neighborhood? He says he will when he wants to then never does.  He just seems to have such little interest in much of anything unless it's video games or anything electronic..  I want to help him in so many way. I'm all out of ideas!!![/quote]

Does he have a passion? Can you help him develop one? That's what saved me, even when I had a small tribe of nerds to eat with at lunch.

Changing schools sounds like a big move, but it could help. He'd reset his standing and have the chance to be seen as someone else. Nothing wrong with who he is, it just seems that the other kids have decided on him and he'll have a hard time changing their view of him. Summer is a great time for transformation. I think we all remember someone who came back from summer way taller or with new boobs, braces, or having spent time on some life altering adventure like sleep away camp or travel. That's a powerful way to reset his standing among his peers.

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