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I'm 56 and happily married for 30 years.  I have many women friends in their 50s who are smart, interesting, fun, fit and attractive -- just like your mom, OP.  You are sweet to be concerned about her and I'm sure she's lovely, but you should know that she's not such a rare commodity.  And, for the record, while your mom might want to marry again, many women her age who are divorced or widowed would like to be in a couple, but others are perfectly to be on their own.  Demographically, we are late baby-boomers -- we experienced feminism at a young age, many of us went to grad/professional school and worked at least for a few years before marriage and parenthood, many of us had sex before marriage, many of us lived with boyfriends --  we're not scared of being alone.

Second, as for the semi-retired Catholic attorney -- again, I'm sure he's a nice man, but he sounds like an outlier for men in their late 60s and early 70s.  These guys, including my DH, who is 62, also experienced feminism.  They have wives who were grad/professional school classmates and colleagues, they mentored younger women colleagues, they coached their daughters' soccer teams, and revel in their DILs' professional accomplishments.  They don't think "decorating is for women" and they don't talk about a 1 y.o. as being "tough" (though they may be  proponents of "grit" for both young women and men.)  Oh, and they know what a potluck is and how to set up a sign-up genius to invite folks to attend.  Their wives taught them how to do that.

As for dating in your 50s and 60s and 70s . . . DH and I have a number of friends, both women and men, who have met romantic partners in this season of life through a variety of means.  Basically, though, there's not much difference between how they meet and how our 20-something kids meet their partners -- being introduced by friends, online dating, meeting through school and professional connections (a friend who works in the alumnae/i office of a major university reports many reunion romances), joining affinity groups -- e.g., music groups, sports leagues, book groups (yes, there are coed book groups), volunteer organizations, faith communities, etc.

Good luck to your mom, OP!        [/quote]

You don't know anything. [/quote]

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