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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't imagine vacationing with parents once you leave home.  If there were some sort of once-off like a Grand Trip to Asia or a 50th Anniversary or a destination wedding, that's one thing.  But routinely paying for your adult working children to vacation with you?  That's insane and your kids are taking advantage of you, and you shouldn't offer.[/quote]

I agree.

And on the flip side, it puts a lot of pressure and control over married children and their spouses who might rather do other things for vacation than spend all their days off travelling with the in laws.

It should definitely stop once your kids are married because whether your kid shares this with you or not, tyese vacations tend to put a lot of stress on marriages.

Once your kids are married you need to save these vacations for big, milestone events, NOT regular or yearly obligations.[/quote]

Or, you know, some people like their parents and enjoy spending time with them.  [b]My husband and I like to vacation with my parents, [/b]because they are easy-going and fun.

That said, there's nothing obligatory about it--you can offer to pay if you really want your adult children to join you and you think money might be an obstacle, or you can simply invite them to join you.  Either way, they should be, and feel, free to decline if they don't want to or there are other issues, like limited vacation time or children's school schedules.  My parents used to pay for my vacations when I was in graduate school, because I had no money and they wanted me to join them.  They subsidized vacations when I was just starting out in my first job and had limited funds.  They no longer pay because my husband and I are working and can afford to pay, and they are retired.  We've invited them to join us on our vacations, though, and paid for their lodging. [/quote]

Would you say the same thing if your husband's parents were the ones requiring you to vacation with them every year? I doubt it. [/quote]

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