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[quote=Anonymous]My mom was in town and baby was born on a Wednesday. DH and I came home Friday and she stopped by with my dad Sat and Sun to bring us groceries and dinner and spend about an hour.

My DH went back to work Monday so my mom was with me during the day all week from 9-5. It was great. By Thursday I was able to handle stuff myself confidently but it was great to just have an errand runner, companionship, mom-daughter bonding, and ride along while she drove me to a store to walk in my myself for 5 minutes. By Friday I was fine for a half day alone, and the next week I had built up the confidence to do it all day. She came by very frequently at lunch for a few months because she worked nearby - it was so helpful and something to look forward to.

My MIL came 10 days later. They wanted to drive up the day before I was induced and about a month out I told DH that I felt that was too much and that no one had really consulted me about those plans. My main thing that I wanted privacy the first several days - even my own parents stopped by for just a few minutes in those early days. They wanted to help us and not bond with the baby; I knew MIL was really wanting to "bond" and I wasn't ready for that. DH was amazing and arranged to have them come the 2nd weekend. It was fine.

If I had another kid I'd be fine with MIL spending more time, but I'd still want a bit of distance in the very beginning.

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