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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have an answer for you but I agree with you. (I'm a woman, FWIW, no kids, don't want them.) It just so often seems like a woman wants to get married now because she's madly in love with her husband, but because the husband is a means to an end (children). Then the children come and the husband is secondary, always. I don't get it. Your spouse is supposed to be your number one teammate and life partner. And don't you want your kids to have a marriage to someone they are madly in love with? Don't you want to set an example of what true love looks like? I'm with you OP. [/quote]

You don't have kids, you are not qualified to comment on this thread. [/quote]

I kind of agree with you.  You can't possibly understand the unconditional love that parents have for their children unless you have one.  You think you do (I thought I did) but you dont.

That said, the poster makes a good point:  marriage should be a partnership.  Your spouse is supposed to be your #1 teammate/life partner.  And OP and his wife aren't a team.

OP, is it really all her fault that you aren't a good team?  Does she know your concerns about the way she is doting on your child in a manner you find excessive?  That you want the two of you to do things together?  Does she know that you are unhappy enough to break up your marriage about it?  Not through your actions ("she *has* to know...") but because you sat her down and told her how unhappy you are?  I dont know about your wife, but if my husband sat me down and told me he was unhappy enough with our marriage to be considering divorce, I would do everything I could to prevent that from happening... Marriage counseling, doing things together that the other one wants to do, etc.

You need to let your teammate know that you aren't happy with the way the team is performing.  Don't just bitch on an anonymous message board and expect things to get better.
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