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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. We're not talking about an infant, tolddler or even ES age child here. We have a fully functional teen, yet DW insists on doing everything for her. She is way [b]too involved in her life and day-to-day life [/b]for the child's age and the child is chafing at it.

Added to this is that the be all and end all of everything is the goddamned house. [b] I pay 1/3 of my salary towards it every month[/b], so you damn right I hate it. DW puts nothing towards it even though she makes just as much money as me. DW never wants to do anything fun. [b]She wants to clean the house and have the perfect lawn[/b], which means me doing the work or paying for it. She is uninteresting. The only things she talks about are shopping, work and the neighbors.

[b]When I suggest we do things[/b], or she listen to a certain piece of music or read a book she says she "doesn't have time." No, DW, you will not make time that is the difference and it is destroying your marriage.[/quote]

OK, there is so much confusing here...

-What is "too involved"?  Who reviews her homework, makes dinner for the family, keeps tabs on school and extracurrics, attends events?  If you are both doing this, and DW *still* wants to pile on more and more involvement, I can see your annoyance.  If this is stuff you just wave off, then that's pretty crappy as both a DH and a Dad.
-Why is it 1/3 of [i]your[/i] salary?  Your assets and income are joint if you are married.  This makes no sense.  It sound like you are "taking credit" for the house as a way to justify your own bitterness, but perhaps there is some other arrangement going on?
-If she doesn't clean the house, who does?  If you don't mow the lawn, who does?  It seems very odd to be complaining about someone "caring" about the incredibly mundane but mundane needs of day to day life.  Sort of "OMG she wants us to do  :roll:  dishes!!  I want a divorce, she's so boring..."
-So if you are like, I booked tickets to XYZ, let's go, she says no?  She's the problem!  Or is it that you say, I want to see more shows, ummm... expect her to make it happen.  You're the problem!

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