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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is passive aggressive.
Did that on purpose to piss you off.
Ask him what he is really angry about. Tell him he needs to find healthy ways to process his anger instead of purposely messing up your things.[/quote]

No, this is the stupidest possible response. [/quote]

You must be OP's DH!

Actually, this response fits my now-ex to the letter. I didn't think "passive-aggressive" was a thing that grown-ass men actually did, but it turns out it's fairly common behavior, and this is exactly what it looks like.

Sorry, OP. If your spouse does this often, you're probably dealing with some core damage or mommy issues or unpacked childhood drama/trauma. [/quote]

This is literally the worst possible advice you could give OP.

DH did something that is unquestionably frustrating. But OP is a grownup and recognizes that getting pissy about it wouldn't be productive. So she asked for some advice on how to not get pissy (and perhaps some sympathetic confirmation that what DH did was in fact extremely annoying).

Your advice is the exact opposite of what OP asked for: A suggestion that she instead go back to DH and make a big deal about it, claiming that him drinking a bottle of water must be a sign of some deeper issue that he needs to identify and work through. This conversation will go very, very poorly. DH will her OP condescendingly suggest that she knows better why he did something than he does, they'll get into a big, counterproductive fight, and then DH will be left alone thinking "Jesus fucking christ, all this because I drank a bottle of water?" Who possibly wins in that scenario?

And if we really want to engage in wild speculation about other people's psychological states based on limited information: Shouldn't we conclude that you're projecting your own frustration over your ex husband onto some guy that you've literally never met and know two sentences of information about?[/quote]

I'm going to suggest you practice reading, because your comprehension is crap.

I didn't suggest anything, let alone that OP "make a big deal about it." I merely echoed what a previous poster had said, because it was QFT of my now-former husband.

You need to calm your life down. Maybe you're hangry? Have a Lunchable and some water.  :lol: [/quote]

I'm not eating lunchables. Not because they're not delicious, but because I don't want a DCUM thread about me where everyone demands my spouse force me into therapy over my snacking habits.[/quote]

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