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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for all the great advice - I truly appreciate it.  Just to clarify a few things -[b] a lot of these occasions wouldn't really be characterized as 'going out,' really.  Just a casual dinner with the kids running around and the adults having a few beers, etc.  [/b]

I have no issue at all going solo and I do that a lot but for whatever reason, it's usually couples at these things.  And I LIKE hanging out with him and having him there.  Also, the kids are little and wild and it's always helpful to have an extra set of hands with them - sure, I can leave one of them home, but that's not really fair to them.  He's now getting "known" as the one who's not usually there, leaves early, etc.  I don't like people thinking he's unfriendly or doesn't like them, but I realize that's not his issue to own.  I wish people could know the him that I know, if that makes sense.

I really like the idea of saying the number - hey, if we do these three things over the next month, I won't ask about anything else.  I'm also hoping as the kids get older and he has more time to himself hopefully, it may improve.

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OP, that IS going out! If your husband is a quiet type who prefers to be on his own, it doesn't matter what the setting is -- what matters is that he burns up a lot of energy to socialize with other people.

Several PPs have suggested that you do your social thing and let him do his. You really haven't responded to that. You two are not joined at the hip. [b]Why do these types of invitations become a problem? [/b]Just tell him you're going and he can come if he'd like, or not. Why do you need him to come? Just go on your own, ffs.[/quote]

Sounds like a good question for OP's husband, since he seems to get an attitude the moment an invitation is issued![/quote]

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