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[quote=Anonymous]Civil discussion poster here again. I also wonder and this is completely sincere, do spankers discuss spanking publicly. Because I get the impression from living in DC and being on DCUM (though not that often) that it's just basically known that it is really disapproved of (even if most people secretly admit to doing it once or more than once). I grew up in a neighborhood where EVERYONE spanked - not one kid I know was not spanked, and most of us lived in fear of it. Nobody had super abusive parents, but it was not a good thing or a positive thing and it didn't have all good outcomes. Kids just learned to hide their crimes, or redirect them, it was about being afraid and "minding," rather than about learning a lesson. I do think my kids are learning a lot about life through discussions, but i will admit that sometimes i would not mind them simply "minding" more. But my gut will not let me spank. Anyway back to my question, i have only had two real life people mention spanking to me. what was curious was they were both extremely blase about it as if everyone spanked. One said her daughter sassed her and she got a good spanking that morning. The other was telling me a story about his daughter acting up at bedtime and kind of mentioned it in passing saying so I went in and gave her a spanking and after she was crying and said she just wanted some time with me and i felt so bad for spanking her. I felt like  :(  when i heard about that, but although that makes him sound awful he is a pretty loving and involved dad and I get the impression that this is just how he knows how to parent, and it's not even apparent to him that people would disapprove of spanking. So i wonder if there is this whole culture of folks who do spank openly and it's just not known to the rest of us? Or if they only admit to fellow spankers?

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