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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I expected something different from the title OP ... it is hardly "inflexible" to want to have your 4th of July party on the 4th! It was pretty ballsy of you to ask to change it just for the sake of saving a vacation day. Anyway, I'd say go and come back late on the 4th. [/quote]

Actually, it's pretty much the definition of inflexible, especially with this much notice and given OP's situation.  It's hardly 'ballsy'.  It's a 4th of July party, not a wedding.[/quote]

It's not a 4th of July party on the 3rd! People like family traditions like that. [/quote]

Really? Really. You can't grill a few burgers and drink a few beers and use red, white and blue decor on the 3rd, and then have a nice breakfast and enjoy some leftovers and some fireworks on the 4th? You just can't? Because "tradition" trumps family?[/quote]

Tradition may not trump family, but it sure trumps OP's plan to rearrange her inlaw's 4th just so she can save a vacation day to go to the Grand Canyon (without them) later in the summer. [/quote]

Backyard BBQ, or once-in-a-lifetime trip that has been planned for two years? Hmm...which is more important?[/quote]

But no one is suggesting OP should not use her vacation days to take the Grand Canyon trip - that makes sense.  But it does seem unfair to get worked up about MIL not changing the date of the party because she has no vacation days - she does, but is choosing to use them for something else.  It's fair for MIL to keep the party on the 4th and fair for OP not to go or to leave early.  It's not fair for OP to be upset that MIL won't change the party (and it doesn't sound like she is - just responding to the general posts on the matter).[/quote]

Who is getting "worked up"? OP is asking what people think she should do in this situation. It's not like she's screaming obscenities about MIL, she's asking for advice on how to best proceed. OP doesn't even seem upset. You are reading a lot into this.[/quote]

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