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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am male and I just hold building doors open for everyone. I thought this was just something that adults do.

If a passenger door for a car is locked, I'll unlock it. In the days of power locks, I'd honestly feel a bit silly walking around a car to open an unlocked door for a able-bodied adult. Maybe I would do this for my grandmother, who physically (and mentally) struggles with things that we take for granted.

As for pulling chairs out -- again, I'd feel silly doing this for an able-bodied grown-up. And you should feel silly for expecting it.

On the other hand, I'm egalitarian and agree with most feminist stances on political issues. Do you want to be treated like a helpless doll who constantly requires "special handling" or do you want to be treated as an equal? [/quote]

No, but I want you to show more respect for me than a random male also trying to enter through a door.  Do I want to be treated like an equal? [b] I will never be an equal given I've been assigned the duty of giving birth and having children. [/b] The least you could do is show some appreciation.  Also women are less likely to try and enter a door first if they are not giving the chance.  A woman on a date with you is most likely trying to be polite and isn't going to push her way through or try and get in front of you.  So that's why you should open her door - so she is able to enter through the door first.

I think all of this depends on how much you value traditions and how you were raised. I was raised in a family where we write thank you notes.  [/quote]

This is a disturbing thought process.[/quote]

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