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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, [b]is your DD allowed to get away with this behavior? [/b] Are theirrelevant boundaries that need to be observed in your family?  [/quote]

What?  WTF?  Seriously?

Little girls who are "bossy" are natural leaders. They have terrific, innate leadership skills.  It's not something that she "gets away with." It's something that is a tremendous asset and which she needs to learn to harness to make the world a better place.

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Girls that are bossy are not natural leaders.  Natural leaders take control sometimes yes, but they also listen to others, digest what people are saying around them and come up with better ways to do things.

Bossy girls on the playground always tell other kids what to do, don't listen or care what the other kids want to do or say, always is waiting to get a word in edge-wise, ignores adults, always has a rationale as to why they did something their way (even when they know it is wrong) and then stomp if they don't get their way.

Please don't think that bossy is a positive word.  It has nothing to do with being a leader.  [/quote]

...or the actions of the girl are being perceived as bossy. OP actually doesn't say that her daughter is exhibiting the exact behaviors that you describe. In fact OP says, DD is "Kind, but intensely competitive at the same time".

I agree that bossy isn't a positive word, especially when applied to a female. Better to be explicit about the behavior and direct it positively as you would any behavior in any child. [/quote]

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