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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. I just don't feel like mailing money to a virtual stranger for what I see as basically no reason. Yes, we are invited but all of them will involve plane tickets and some of them are no-kids. If we did our usual gift ($150) that would be $600 in about a 6 month period of time. [b]Sure we can afford it,[/b] but I just don't see the point. [b]There is no relationship. So because they added us to some arbitrary invite list[/b] I'm out $150? It could be 5 years before I see these people again and even then only likely at someone's funeral.

Again, if DH wants to buy a card, write a check, dig up their address and mail it, I won't say a word. But he won't. [/quote]

There is a relationship: they are cousins.  They probably invited all their cousins, as many people do; there's nothing "arbitrary" about inviting you.    You don't want to go to the weddings, fine, don't go.  But don't act like you're so put-upon because your cousins are inviting you to their weddings.  Send a gift, or don't.  But stop acting like it's a huge imposition or so unreasonable.  Just own that you are a bean-counter and don't think that they've earned a gift from you.  [/quote]

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