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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being in a marriage with someone that you can not trust would mean having the potential for catastrophe looming over your head at any time...you've just turned a blind eye to it and chose to bury your head.

[b]I agree that single cat lady sounds better than sitting on a time bomb waiting for it to explode.[/b][/quote]

I think not.

If anybody has personal experience with both and cares to chime in, I'm all ears.[/quote]

I left my spouse in large part for this reason -- the stress of sitting on the ticking time bomb.  Any day he could give me an STD I would have to live with for life.  Any day he could blow another huge some of money on porn or prostitutes.  Any day he could get involved with some crazy woman and drag that crazy into the lives of me and my kids.  Every day I would question whether what was coming out of his mouth was the truth or a lie.

I am so glad I kicked him out.  I am not crazy cat lady because I have full custody of our two kids, but our life is 1000% better without that instability even though we are poor and my career has been wrecked by the lack of a reliable parenting partner.

Had we been childless, I would have kicked him out and not looked back for a second.  It's interesting how we use the pejorative "crazy cat lady" for a single woman, when the true crazy is the partnered male who tells the vast quantity of lies necessary to cheat in a relationship.  [/quote]

To be fair, PP didn't say crazy. She said single cat lady. [b]It is not a perjorative, [/b]but I think people realize that humans are social animals, and lack of familial ties is perceived as negative.

If you have kids, none of this applies anyway. But there are very few women out there who are perfectly content being single cat ladies. Most women want relationships.[/quote]
It most certainly is a perjorative. A single woman can still have strong social and familial ties some don't think that "counts" ergo the whole "enjoy life with your cats" insult.[/quote]

Definitely pejorative.  The whole premise is, "you are spoiled goods and you will never be able to attract another man; you will live alone with your cats forever.  So, your choice is lonely cat lady or accepting this flawed abusive cheater."[/quote]

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