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This is interesting for me as the parent of two very different children. The older one has had health issues from birth and is twice exceptional (gifted and learning disabled); and the second is healthy and above average in everything.

I find myself spending so much more time with DC1, and I hope I have explained enough and shown my love to both enough, that DC2 will understand why I need to do this, and not see it as a slight. The gestures and thoughts of daily life are so difficult for DC1, while DC2 can take care of himself so competently. I am also afraid DC1 will resent me for being so trusting of DC2, who is organized and handy, whereas I constantly check on motor-challenged and forgetful DC1 for spills, lost items, time spent on various tasks, etc...

I tell them I love them every day. I hug them tight. I encourage them to bond and play. I hope I'm doing enough. But I can't parent them the same way.[/quote]

Nope. A kid can't not understand it in the adult level you expect.

Your child became an expert I taking are of himself because he had to.

Dc2 believes DC1 is the favorite and sadly his organized and handy behavior probably stems from his own idea that if he is just perfect, you will love him.
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+2  I've seen this dynamic over and over again. You need to set aside one-on-one time for DC2.

Sadly, this is true.[/quote][/quote]

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