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I have sent 3 to college with one left to go.  Each kid required a different strategy and we did have one who was "dragging" her feet about the process. My suggestion would be a balance of the structure and the back off advice you have been given.

Here is the thing.  You are trying to get him to discuss college when his finals are a month away.  He probably has some anxiety about them and it is probably stressful to think about them AND the prospect of college.  He may just want to be focused on finishing the school year intact.  With our "reluctant" DD, we did not hover.  We gave her benchmarks  - By July 1 - have a list of 10-15 schools ready. We would come up with 10 as well.   During July we will discuss and refine the list.  In August and early September, we will visit your top 5.  We were not constantly on her, but we gave her jobs to get done and free rein to get them done.  By early September (after the visits) she really had a good sense of what she wanted to do.

We also told her that if she did not want to go to college, that was fine.  She just would need to get a full time job instead. [/quote]

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