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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop negotiating, stop jollying him along, stop patronizing him with "uh oh's and sweethearts" and stop appeasing him with I love you's, kisses and the like.  He's not a toddler and he's not your precious hurt boy.  You are also failing to take his anger seriously, which you need to work on.

You:  You look annoyed.   Are you angry with me?  Would you like to talk about it?  (No uh, oh, no sweetheart, no rubbing or touching.  This is not a moment for kissy kissy.  This is you offering to talk about him and his anger.)

Him -- he either talks or he doesn't

You;  I care very much about what is making you angry (very serious voice -- no cajoling, no touching, no tears).  I would like to know, but your silence tells me nothing and I can't work on the situation based on silence.  Can you tell me what has happened to make you angry?

Him -- either talks or doesn't.

If he doesn't talk:

YOU:  I'm ready to talk whenever you are ready.

AND YOU WALK AWAY

No cajoling, no begging, no sweetie pie kissy kissy.

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This. 
Rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat.
Exactly how you handle a passive aggressive individual.  
Do not get worked u, he might not know so much anger built up and one little thing tipped him off.[/quote]

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