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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the great ideas and links. I'll be sure to implement some of these. As for discipline, we do positive discipline and do not do punishments or time outs in our house. [/quote]
[b]The purpose of discipline is not for YOU to control him. The purpose of discipline is to teach him how to control himself. [/b]By allowing him to climb on shelves, refuse to use liquid soap and cause monetary damage, and you are making it very difficult for him to learn to respect boundaries and authority. This is a skill he will need in order to navigate the rest of his life. You cannot start to teach this when he's 10 or 12 or 15. By then it is too late and you will have a monster on your hands.   [/quote]

I totally agree with this. I can't stand it when people are advised to discipline their child and they respond with "Sorry, but i don't believe in spanking" or whatever extreme they can think of. There are a million positive ways to teach your kid how to act and follow the rules. "If you continue doing that, you will lose X" -- then they should think to themselves, i don't want to lose that so I'll stop. That is the job of the parent. If not now, when?[/quote]
Yes to both of these. I don't do spankings or time-outs either, but if I tell my children no dumping soap, they understand that I mean what I say and they are not to dump the soap. It is not fair to your child not to create boundaries and simply allow him to do what he wants (i.e. climb shelves to get to the soap). The period of development between 1 and 6 is the most critical. If you don't instill discipline (and I mean internal, knows to respect the boundaries type discipline, not spankings type discipline) at that age, it's extremely difficult to turn it around later. You will have major problems in the future.

You can do this! Be that authority your son needs to be. [/quote]

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