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[quote=Anonymous]Stop and analyze.  Is he saying it out of frustration?  Is it just a phrase he uses when he's mad about something he perceives is your fault?  If so, you need to break the habit.  If you can see he's just venting, just say "Whoa - find a better way to tell me what the problem is or I'm not having this conversation". Is he normally a kid you can talk to in calmer moments?  If so, pull him aside and tell him that his anger is hurtful and he needs to find a better vocabulary.  Remind him that you can't understand what he specifically is angry about if he uses such a general blanket insult.  Also remind him that saying that is not going to make you change your mind and is only going to get him punished for being disrespectful.

Now the second option is that he's saying it out of true, deep anger.  In that case you need to take steps to get him help managing that.  Adolescent drama can quickly become adult rage and a man who cannot respect his parents will have a tough time controlling himself around women or under frustration in the workplace.  Recipe for major trouble potentially even with the law.  If his words are coming with a hint of violence, get help for all of you.  That's not oral teenage venting.[/quote]

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