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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I commend OP for not having killed this man in his sleep.

If this were my DH, I would inform him that I do not share his values, and that an obsession with accolades, awards, and accomplishments to this degree is not just exhausting mentally and physically, but a killer of the soul.  We were not created to be little machines, buzzing away, attempting to achieve perfection.  What purpose does all of this serve in the end?  He's like an inverse Donald Trump, trying to fill the hole in his heart with achievements, instead of attention.  I used to be like this, a little bit.  It is rooted in a terror of failure, a terror of having nothing to think about but who you really are.  There is no such thing as perfection, and he needs to get a grip.[/quote]

Thanks. You get it. I am not a slacker, but I focus my energies on my kids and my work and running. I don't think much about how to be better at domestic stuff, or other aspects of life...I guess I just dont care.  He cares about everything.

We had a talk tonight. For someone with a high IQ, he wasn't really following! At the end of it, he said he'd try not to nag ad nauseum, but I could tell he's going to try to stop because it pisses me off so much, and not, because, he can actually understand HOW it could piss me off. He takes criticism well, so doesn't understand why/how others don't.

Don't they teach empathy in med school? I feel, occasionally, like I am dealing with an alien species. [/quote]

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