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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don't know why I am getting attacked. I have worked really hard to get where I am and am hesitant to leave it all behind for Dallas Texas. Unless I am mistaken, it doesn't seem to be as hot a market as DC. Why is it wrong that I am serious about my career?
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Because your title basically suggest that you are willing to give up your marriage and subject a young child to a long-distance co-custody situation FOR your career.

I'm totally fine with women or men having career is priority, but you really shouldn't have a child if you don't expect to (at least while the child is young) prioritize the child at least at the same level of the career.

It sounds like your husband has put your marriage and family OVER his career a number of times.  You admitted that his career has likely suffered from not staying in the same place.

It is selfish to expect that from a partner but not reciprocate in some way.  If you never intended to reciprocate or compromise, then you probably should not have gotten married.

It's one thing to be serious about your career.  It's another thing to make other commitments -- a commitment to a marriage, having a child -- but expecting those commitments to always take a backseat to your career.

Don't expect people to have any sympathy for you.  You clearly show concerns over the repercussions to your career if you move to Texas.  But there is absolutely no mention or concern about the repercussions to your daughter if you divorce and live across the country from your the man with whom you share custody with.  What happens when she starts school?  What is the impact to her education and childhood of having to split her time between homes several states apart?

And you are the one who mentioned divorce.  It's in your title.[/quote]

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