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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up with a father with an anger management problem. Please do not have children with this man.

I grew up terrified of my father. As in, I would cry if I had to be home alone with him. Up until my early 20's, if any older man (teacher, boss, etc.) got angry at me, I'd get tears in my eyes and do the Silent Cry. I couldn't help it - I assumed there was so much anger behind their yelling and that they were just as angry as my father always was.

My father mellowed around the age of 60. For him. He still yells at my mother in restaurants and other public places.

A few years ago my father got so angry at my mother while we were in the car, that he expressed his anger by shooting forward, then slamming on the brakes, and I had a panic attack for the only time in my life.

PLEASE do NOT have children with a man like this. 
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I think people can easily overlook the fact that traits in a person that are difficult for other adults to deal with can be IMPOSSIBLE for children to deal with.  OP, as an adult, has a hard time not being afraid or hurt by her DHs outburst and she's had years of dealing with them to develop strategies.  A small child, that doesn't have the coping mechanisms or understanding of an adult, doesn't have many resources to protect themselves from this kind of behavior.  They're just left wide open and pretty defenseless.  [/quote]

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