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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have a family budget and are you staying within it?  If you don't have one I recommend you develop one.  Believe it or not we have a Target line item that is meant to cover TP, Detergent, etc.[/quote]

We do not, but again, it's not about how much I'm spending.

I guess this should have gone in the relationship forum.[/quote]

You keep saying it's not about how much you spend and how he's not controlling but he is and apparently it is about money.

Make a weekly list. Then send him the links to every purchase on that list. He can then tell you whether he has a problem with it or not. Make sure though when you order you stick to the list. After a while he'll tire of this and you will be back to your regular ordering. I don't do Amazon but I do order regularly from Walmart. If you give him your login/password to both he can see for himself what you bought. At our house we know what everyone is ordering. If one wants to look, one can look. We hide nothing. Just saying. Life is much more at ease like that. I was never one to hide any purchases. It was not worth fighting over.

Frankly if I worked 60 hours a week, took care of everything while my husband was deployed, I'd tell him to suck a d. There comes a time when you need to do what you need to do. He's not your daddy.

You both have trust issues. I've seen this with other military people. Even the ones with no kids. I get budgeting but I don't get not buying necessities. It's time for a financial talk. Work out a plan together so this doesn't repeat itself.

BTW, the poster saying it's more secure ordering online with a credit card ? Bull. I've been ordering with a debit card for years. The only time we were breached was when my husband ate at a swanky hotel in Houston. Got those charges removed.  DO NOT get your own credit card unless your husband knows. That will open up a can of s for sure.
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