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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had an affair 15 years ago with a man that was 14 years older then me. I was a young mother at the time and I think I was just a bored lonely housewife. My affair partner did some work on our house. The chemistry was off the charts!  I felt so alive! I too suffered PPD.[b] I became obsessed. He consumed my thoughts. [/b]The affair lasted a year and my husband only found out about it 3 years ago when he found a text between me and another person discussing the affair.  
My life has been hell ever since my husband found out. We are trying to make it work but it is a lot if work! My kids know about it because of the fighting and I am ashamed of what I did. Mostly, I feel bad for the time I took away from my young family while I was obsessing over this guy. I was there physically but mentally I was somewhere else.

I chose to end the affair because in reality I did not want to leave . It was very hard to walk away and it took several attempts. I went through awful withdraw. I wish I had never gotten involved with this person. I want my old boring life back. The innocence is gone. My husband and I have been together since high school. He Truley is an amazing man. [/quote]

How did you get over him?  I've been unsuccessful with getting over the married man I slept with.  It's pathetic.  I'm married and have a great life.  I shouldn't even care to speak with him.  He's a complete ass.  [/quote]

It took time. I went no contact and really tried to focus on my family and stay busy. Easier said then done. Lol. I eventually became pregnant with my husbands baby and that baby was bor very early. (24 weeks). That crisis totally made me refocus and the guilt I had for almost destroying my family was more then I could imagine. I felt like God was punishing me. 
Time really does help. Stayin no contact is key. 
There is a website called surviving infidelity and they gave some great articles about withdraw. I wish it was there for me back then, but glad to have it now .[/quote]

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