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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you so much for the replies.  The people who have been through it, especially 16:46,
The people who resisted, even those of you who are giving kidding replies. This is a potential life-changing situation for me and my family.  I value your honesty.

I've never cheated on my husband.  In high school and college, I cheated on boyfriends.  So yes,
Cheating is an issue for me, but my marriage is pure.

I don't know the detail of the man's open marriage, other than that he told me and a couple others once on a train that his wife never wanted to be monogamous and that they have an open marriage.  I believe it truly is an open marriage.  I also know that he loves her and would never leave her.  That is beyond question.

As sexual as this feels, I think someone hit the nail on the head when they said this isn't sexual.  I'm like a drowning person and these feelings have come up like a life raft and I'm hanging onto them because nothing else feels good. Parenting is hard. 
Marriage is hard.  Work is hard.  Nothing is joyful and fun except this.

I'm not a religious person.  But I'm praying I can resist and get through the corresponding letdown and depression that will come with letting go of this flirtation.  I'm frankly not sure  I am strong enough.

What I know is something basic I learned when I was dating: if you cannot be 100% you around someone, warts and all, then it's all wrong.  The truth is that I can't be totally myself around this man.  Details aren't necessary here; lets just say we aren't soul mates.  My sweet husband a
has always accepted me as who I am.  This man, even in the work context, has not.  Enough said.[/quote]

Make sure that something in your life is joyful and fun other than this old creeper. Take some time off and do something fun for yourself! Go to Vegas with your DH and NO KIDS! Take a cooking/horseback riding/yoga/tennis class. Get a vibrator if you need to get off hard.

It will totally collapse your job. I agree that people already know. Cut it off. Take a sick day tomorrow and get your stuff together.[/quote]

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