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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you so much for the replies.  The people who have been through it, especially 16:46,
The people who resisted, even those of you who are giving kidding replies. This is a potential life-changing situation for me and my family.  I value your honesty.

I've never cheated on my husband.  In high school and college, I cheated on boyfriends.  So yes,
Cheating is an issue for me, but my marriage is pure.

I don't know the detail of the man's open marriage, other than that he told me and a couple others once on a train that his wife never wanted to be monogamous and that they have an open marriage.  I believe it truly is an open marriage.  I also know that he loves her and would never leave her.  That is beyond question.

As sexual as this feels, I think someone hit the nail on the head when they said this isn't sexual.  I'm like a drowning person and these feelings have come up like a life raft and I'm hanging onto them because nothing else feels good. Parenting is hard. 
Marriage is hard.  Work is hard.  Nothing is joyful and fun except this.

I'm not a religious person.  But I'm praying I can resist and get through the corresponding letdown and depression that will come with letting go of this flirtation.  I'm frankly not sure  I am strong enough.

What I know is something basic I learned when I was dating: if you cannot be 100% you around someone, warts and all, then it's all wrong.  The truth is that I can't be totally myself around this man.  Details aren't necessary here; lets just say we aren't soul mates.  My sweet husband a
has always accepted me as who I am.  This man, even in the work context, has not.  Enough said.[/quote]

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