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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was your stepson.  In fact, I ate fewer foods than he did (and would not eat meat either-- still don't).  This lasted probably until college.

I have empathy for your SS because no one WANTS to be a picky eater.  He's not just being a pain in the ass, or spoiled, or whatever.  Eating foods that were outside of my comfort zone was seriously anxiety-inducing for me.

But the worst part was that my eating was a THING.  It was all anyone could talk about at any family gathering. My parents were always freaking out about it. Everyone was always offering advice about it. I even had an uncle who seriously suggested force-feeding me.

All I wanted was for people to LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT IT.  By age 13, your SS is perfectly capable of making something for himself if he doesn't like what he is served. If you allow this, it will probably be a relief. Just say, "Hey SS, we are having XYZ for dinner tonight. If you would like something else, there's chicken nuggets in the fridge (or whatever). He is quite old enough to operate a toaster oven. And in restaurants, if he doesn't want any seasoning on the french fries or lettuce on his hamburger, he is old enough to use his words and tell the waiter how he wants his food prepared.

So basically, my advice is to leave it alone, and don't infantalize him.  Drop the other end of the rope.  He won't starve.

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