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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it. There's a lot of non starter things for people looking for relationships. Date what /who you want, and I think it's great that you've put it out there in your profile. 
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It tells me, as a non-divorced, childless woman that you are probably uptight and judgemental, and will always hold grudges, and hold mistakes or people's pasts against them. So, it will save me lots of time by not replying to you in the first place. [/b]

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As a divorced guy who has tried to date after my divorce I can tell you for a fact that a significant portion of non-divorced women have the exact same criteria. They do not want to date a divorced man. I've been told this many times. Their rationale varies but I've found a few concerns (1) they are concerned that divorced people are less likely to stay married because its easier to walk out the second time (2) they are concerned they have emotional baggage left over from the first marriage (3) they are concerned about their parents accepting them dating a divorced guy (yes, I've been told this).

All of these are valid concerns.... for either a man or a woman... why would you belittle his preference by labeling him like that? Maybe he simply is trying to increase his chance of a successful marriage and he thinks similarly to the women I've been meeting.[/quote]

Not the PP you're responding to, but hey, it takes all kinds. Easier to walk out the second time? Great. Why would you want to stay with a person who wants to leave but doesn't, because it is not "easy" for them for whatever reason? I'm all for easy partings, if the reality calls for it. I never wanted to be with anybody who reluctantly has to stay married to me, because it is too much of a hassle to get divorced. Everybody past twelve can boast some emotional baggage, so who's to say marriage baggage is worse than a crappy childhood or a traumatic past event? As far as parents' approval, this takes the whole discussion into the nonsensical territory. So I tend to agree with PP who call OP's reasons for being so rigid somewhat immature. Then again, a mature man in his 30s is a rarity. Most guys don't start making any sense whatsoever until early forties.[/quote]

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