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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the logical consequence for hitting is to separate yourself from the child, in a way that is punitive.  By punitive I mean the child goes to their room, rather than say out for ice cream for Dad.  The message needs to be "I don't want to be around someone who is hitting me".  This is about the only thing I'd use confinement to their room for, because it's such a huge deal.

I also think you want to be very clear that whatever your child was seeking to gain from hitting didn't happen.  So, if he's hitting because he wants you to buy him a specific toy, that toy's not an option, ever (not on the Christmas list, not something he can save up for).  I think too often we say to our kids, "Oh no, that's now how we do it, let's make a plan" and then the plan ends up with them getting what they want (e.g. you can earn X by not hitting for a week or something), and basically the kid learns that if they want a plan they just have to hit.  If they're hitting to get out of a shopping expedition, then maybe you go home, but you go back and redo the trip the next day.  Kid is confined to their room in the meantime, and knows the only way to get "out" of that confinement is to behave on the second trip.  [/quote]

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After your DC calms down and won't be agitated by talking about it (which may not be until next day), talk with him about it and problem-solve (get his ideas for) how he can manage his frustration/anger differently next time.[/quote]

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