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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left my first marriage because my ex husband did not know how to express feelings or emotions. [b]I felt[/b] very lonely and disconnected from him. [/quote]

This pretty perfectly encapsulates how a woman's stated desire to have a man communicate his emotions is really about focusing on her emotional needs -- not a real concern about what his emotions are. [/quote]

In the end, people have to take care of themselves because you can't count on somebody else.

Women do care about their husbands' emotions. By withholding and thereby putting your wives in a position to divine your needs, not only are you keeping your wives from Knowing what is going on with you, you are also burdening your wife with 1) not knowing what makes you tick and what your needs are and 2) feeling disconnected from the spouse. [/quote]

Well, from one guy's perspective, this sounds like I not only need to deal with my own emotional issues. I need to add to that by also working to satisfactorily communicate my emotions to my wife. And *then* dealing with her emotional responses to that information. [/quote]

Well from a woman's perspective you just described a marriage. Each person is responsible for maintaining their own mental health, or at least trying to, and[b] to communicate well with their partner[/b] and to support their partner through anything they feel or go through.

What's lacking in your response is the wife's assumption that she has taken on that exact same burden willingly[/quote]

communicate well = "words, words, and more words" for women
communicate well = "just get to the point" for men[/quote]

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