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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1.  It's not how I was brought up.  My father was my role model.  And he's not the type of guy to talk about his feelings.  So honestly, until I was a grown man it never occured to me that this was really an option.

2.  Even if I wanted to, I lack the emotional vocabulary to talk about them.   My wife can tell me about her feelings, and can do so in a way that is honest and not hurtful to me, even when she has something bad to tell me.  But I lack the ability/experience to do this.

3.  It makes me feel weak and vulnerable.  I don't like to feel that way, and I don't like others - my wife included - to see me that way.[/quote]

This too.  Emotional vocabulary is lacking - I feel "fine" or "sad" or "its ok" rarely cuts it. Or It seems the expectation is that I have a several paragraph explanation ready at a moments notice and when it's not there it's something that needs to be worked on and thought about until the essay is ready. [/quote]

This original post makes me a bit sad - I think everyone deserves to be able to adequately express themselves. Emotions aren't optional or something that can be pushed aside and ignored - they are a normal part of being a human and a sign that your brain is adequately processing and reacting to the behaviour going on around you.

Being able to competently and clearly state how you're feeling isn't a sign of weakness or vulnerability. Being specific in your communication with your spouses is as important as being specific with work communications. [/quote]

+1. By withholding, the people in your life don't really get to truly know you or how you tick. [/quote]

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