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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is an engineer and I swear sometimes he's got some kind of social disorder. He's wicked smart but his emotional IQ is really low. Introverted with little tolerance/empathy for things he doesn't understand, which is basically anything that isn't concrete and proved fact-based lol

Overall he's a good husband, great provider. In the beginning, his social awkwardness was endearing because I could tell he was trying but now that he doesn't try so much, it can be off putting. Even still, he can be very sweet and for the most part he's willing to put forth effort to do the things that make me happy (listening to my stories, complimenting me every once in a while, and not correcting me all the time).

We don't have children (yet?). I'm a bit nervous but I think we might be a good balance as far as personalities go and not completely ruin a kid *fingers crossed*[/quote]

Things were very difficult when we had our first child. Things that I would normally let slide I couldn't because there was another person involved for whom I was responsible. My husband is not as bad as some of the descriptions here (he is somewhat adventurous and he like going out with friends although it's a small circle), but we had huge disagreements about raising our first child.

The situation has gotten much better due to a few things:
- If we disagree about child rearing I would buy some books to read. He will generally follow the advice in a book written by a child psychologist or child expert
- We had a second child, so there's no time to fret about the small things. Once you're more in survival mode you tend to let things slide and with a second we both realized that nature (vs nurture) plays a huge role. I let him dress the children even though it's often a disaster and lets me spoil them once in a while. [/quote]

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