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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i want a third spouse too so we could have a SAH :([/quote]

That's what I have a housekeeper for. Haven't used my washer and dryer in years , I don't go to the grocery store, my closets are all organized, my meals are all prepped, lunches all packed, most all my errands are run, and I come home to a clean house with beds made each day. I don't go to costco, yet the food from Costco appears at my home.

For dinner I remove the mostly prepped food and do the finishing touches on a home cooked meal each night with minimal effort. Last night after dinner we all took a bike ride as a family. We probably had a good 3hrs to burn before bed.

The cost of paying someone to do that vs having someone out of the workforce is well worth it. Not even a comparison,  plus nobody is resentful about their role in the house. DH and I just enjoy each other and enjoy the kids. It's a good life we have.[/quote]

It's great that you can afford that, but for many couples the cost of a daily housekeeper on top of full-time childcare would more than obliterate one person's salary. Yes, I appreciate he long-term value of staying in the workforce even if you're not seeing the financial value in the short-run, but most people aren't going to be comfortable drawing from their savings to pay for all of those services instead of doing them themselves.[/quote]

It's a response to the notion that it is necessary to have someone at home to make it easier on a working spouse. I agree that it is a grind to have two working people and not have someone to take care of the chores exclusively. However, in the grand scheme of things there is a solution to thst and frankly I doubt any SAHM can take care of a home as well and as efficiently as my housekeeper who is paid for this task that is her only focus for 4 hrs a day. [b]Yes, my childcare (auPair) and housekeeping run us 41k/yr[/b], but it is still much less expensive than having a single income household, not even getting into the compounding effects of contributing to retirement.

Plus for me having a housekeeper is normal. I'm Hispanic and when I grew up we had a housekeeper who also cooked and a nanny. I have no idea why American women martyr themselves.[/quote]

First, I applaud you for finding some way to make your life better and more enjoyable (while stimulating the economy).  Keep on!

But....for your plan to make any sense, the WOH needs to make at least 70k just to break even (deducting taxes and commutes, etc. to net $41k.  So even if the spouse was making 100k, which is a darn good salary, the net take home after taxes and extra expenses plus the 41k in costs would be 20k or so.

So it really comes down to whether you want to work if your past job is in the 60-100k range.  If you work a soul sucking job, I can totally understand why you would prefer to be at home.[/quote]

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