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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, as others have said, yes, you ARE being a control freak making him do something for which there is no need.

As for the need, you need a passport for international travel.  You do not need it on a day-to-day basis, except on the occasional need for an additional form of identification and in those instances, there are almost always other alternatives that are available.

As for renewing, when the passport office is not busy, it takes 4-5 weeks.  It only takes 6-8 weeks when they are busy.  You do not need your passport to book travel or take advantage of great travel deals.  You only need it when you actually travel.  The only thing that his reluctance to do it immediately hampers is your ability to take advantage of great travel deals that must be used in the next 3 weeks.  And if you wanted that, you can do an expedited renewal which takes 1-2 weeks to process.   I'm not sure why you are so reluctant to book travel without him having his passport, but that's your odd reluctance.  This is no different from his reluctance to renew his passport when he doesn't need to.

And I agree with others that it's $110 that you don't need to spend unless have travel planned.  The passports expire in 10 years.  If you aren't going to use it for the first 8 years, why have it?  Why not renew it when you need it and then it will be good for 10 years after that.

As has been pointed out, the psychological warfare between you two is more of a concern than the actual passport.  You need to figure out why you are making this such a major problem between you.  You admit that he doesn't need it, expect to appease your sense of wanderlust, not even to actually travel and yet you are making him do something he doesn't want to do.  Figure out why you need to make him compromise and bend his will to yours when there is no actual need before you make this a hill to die on.  Because although it doesn't seem like a big issue to you, in the future, this will come back to bite you.   If this is the only time that you make him compromise unnecessarily, then you'll probably be okay, but if you have multiple issues that you make him kowtow to you, then no matter how small they are, they will add up and cumulatively may destroy your marriage where one or two will not.  So, pick carefully those issues that you make him bow to your will.[/quote]

This is not such a major problem between us two. This is something I am really annoyed about today, after talking about it for a year. He has already agreed to have his passport renewed; he just hasn't done it. In a year.

It's annoying. I am venting. Somehow, we will make it through. Hopefully, with passports - that we will then use.[/quote]

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